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Feelings of discomfort and being in the rain.

You really want to get home.So you set off on the journey... But suddenly it starts raining. Like REALLY heavy rain.It's pouring, but you desperately don't want to get soaked. You don't want to have wet clothes, wet shoes to walk in, get cold etc. You hate being wet.So you hide. You duck under a tree. Wait under a bus stop or maybe you don't even leave the building. But then, shit, you're not going to get home. You're stuck. The rain hasn't stopped, it's got harder if anything, and you just reaffirm to yourself that getting wet is just out of the question. You must avoid it at all costs. So...time to try something else...You try to pretend it's not raining....

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Sport Psychology through small journeys that matter.

I know you would have seen all the quotes and words of wisdom about how it’s all about focusing on the "journey" and not the destination. We are told repeatedly that we need to focus on the process and not the outcome. Even the recent quote I posted on the FlowSport Facebook page speaks of it (yes…guilty… I do love a good quote)But do we ever actually make change based on a quote? Sad to say, not usually.  So how do we actually change our mindset from focusing excessively on where we want to be? How do we stop thinking about what we want in the future, all the time. Can we actually engage our focus on what we are doing in the moment?Yes! And the method is...

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Welcome the F Word!

Guess what? I'm sick of the way people talk about the F Word. We should friggin love the F word!!But, ever since we were young we were told to avoid it. We’re told it’s bad. Really bad. DON"T SAY IT! It’s horrible to even think about without getting scared about it. We even get nervous about how it will make us feel!But yet, in many ways it’s the key to success in pretty much EVERYTHING. Especially in Sport.......FAILURE.Failing is a really hard thing to embrace because a lot of the messages we are getting from the world is that immediate success is critical. To be good without putting in the effort is seen as admirable. To be a “natural” is...

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You can change

First....Stop doing personality tests. They'll put you in a box (well most of them anyway)Now, more importantly, know this...We can change.But we have to believe we can - This is the crucial part.When I discuss "growth mindset" with athletes this is the key question: Do you think you can improve?​You can tell by someones language if they are really fixed in their thinking about themselves within certain parts of their life: " I can't do that..." and "I'm a person who doesn't do this" or "I'm just not a _________ sort of person"These types of comments often indicate a belief that we are locked in who we are and what we are good/bad at. There was a study done which...

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How to deal with over thinking

That presentation you have to do tomorrow.The confrontational meeting you have coming up with your boss.The 3 foot putt for Birdie.The serve for the match.The last minute kick for the lead.What do all these things have in common?People tend to massively overthink them. Over thinking sucks. Its gruelling and emotionally exhausting to fearfully overanalyse and think through all possibilities. It’s called paralysis by analysis for reason. And can almost literally have that effect in sports!I often have anxious sports people come to me and discuss how much they need to stop over thinking everything. It can really take us out of the flow and mess with our performance in many domains. So, if you are a chronic overthinker what you need...

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